Sallys Pregnancy Secrets

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Thursday, July 27, 2006

No Guarantee

One thing I simply must say and disagree with the heavy emphasis and pressure on pregnant women to expect she is going to get a baby just because she is pregnant. The thing that as women and as a society we must realise is that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in tears (miscarriage) and that just because you are pregnant does not mean that baby will be healthy or even survive. I really do not know why we are not more prepared for other outcomes.

And why does no one talk about miscarriage and pregnancy loss away from the topic of pregnancy? It is like it must not be spoken about and it is a very hush-hush topic. My friend said she had a miscarriage and I didn't even know about it. She hid her feelings of pain from all her friends, not just me, and I did not find out till two years later.

So why is this? Why, as women, so we feel the need to keep this intensely private? Is it because its "secret womens business"? Or is it something else? If we talked about it more openly then perhaps women who do suffer from miscarriage would not feel so alone when it happens to them.

And this is not just forecasting a story of doom, its really being realistic. When you get pregnant the chances of success on a good day is only 75%, and even then you have never any guarantees of the pregnancy being successful.

I love eveything about babies, pregnancy and children as much as the next woman but I've also suffered a miscarriage that broke my heart into several peices. So I don't understand why there is such heavy emphasis on being pregnant means success. Sadly it does not. This is why it is so important to realise that being pregnancy does not always result in a child and we need to speak more openly about this.

The Doctors who helped me write this book "Amazing Pregnancy Secrets" (Dr Peter Lucas, Miwdwife Robyn Thomnpson, Dr Karen Lucas, Dr Rebecca Zsabo) told me this: There are about 4.4 million confirmed pregnancies in the U.S. every year. 900,000 to 1 million of those end in pregnancy losses EVERY year. More than 500,000 pregnancies each year end in miscarriage (occurring during the first 20 weeks). Approximately 26,000 end in stillbirth (considered stillbirth after 20 weeks) . These statistics were confirmed at http://www.hopexchange.com/Statistics.htm

So if a woman is pregnant for the first time I think its important that she knows the reality of things and not only is she intellectually prepared if she losses the child, but understands that being pregnant is not a gaurantee of a child.

We really need to create more awareness in our society about this devastating occurance and help women who have experienced it gain confidence and heal again. So if you are pregnant just wait till the first trimester is over before you start buying baby things.

My best wishes to you,

Sally

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